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help please !!!

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1 year ago
right now i'm a little confused because there is a muslimah that i'm very interested in. she is a fine example and wonderful woman. my concern is that she is nearly 17 years older than me. i am 26 years old. she is very respectful and caring to me and i have that sense that she is also interested in me. i'm just worried about what my family will think. i know that my family wouldn't have a problem with her personally, but i don't think my mom would want me with someone so much older. what do i do?
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aslmkm

Isn't it sad that in today's world when a younger guy falls for a much older woman, the battle with society is much greater than if it was the other way round where a younger female falls in love with a much older guy?

Wonder how society's mentality came to be fashioned as such?

Our Prophet's (s.a.w) first wife was much older than him but they had a blissful marriage....
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1 year ago
salams brother,
man, you are in a tough situation, but im not going to tell you follow your heart! thats just toooo hollywood.! but, people say age is just a number, well thats trur to a certain level, but not when the age is so far apart! not to kill naseeb, she is 43 and you 26, there is issues to consider, from quality of conversation, ti interests, to children! so, my proposed solution. go see your local sheik at the mosque. dont tell him any information, just ask him for an istikhar (he reads thriugh a random verse in teh Koran and gives you feedback, if comes out positive, you then folow your heart, but you must first plann, or say something like, "allah please show me the way to my partner in marriage, if this person is the one, please let it be positive, but if not, please guide us apart) now from there, its not compulsary to act on the result, but preferable.!
take care'