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the hardship of finding a wife

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1 year ago
salaam to all.

in all of my 25 years on this earth, life has given me challenges. some easier or harder than others; but there is one challenge that i'm going through that seems to be the toughest yet. what's the challenge? it has been finding a wife. a good Muslim wife. this isn't a blog to make anyone feel sorry for me, but it has been difficult to find someone for me.

i like muslimfriends very much and have no problem with the site, i do however; get a little annoyed by quite a few of the profiles I've come across. what i mean is that many of the women's preferences seem materialistic or rather unrealistic.

I've seen many profiles that only wanted doctors or lawyers for potential husbands. i am neither a doctor or lawyer, but when i see these profiles i doubt the sincerity of these women who choose doctors or lawyers primarily for their matches. it's great to have a husband or wife with such professions, but one has to think realistically. men, if you were a doctor, do you think that you'd be looking for a wife online? probably not. if you were you couldn't keep women away from you. it wouldn't even matter if they were Muslim women or not. some would even convert to Islam just to marry you.

women, this blog has been written for you. many of you have complained about finding the right Muslim man; and I've seen your profiles, but some of your standards have been set too high. i have seen many awesome profiles here, but i count myself out when i see profiles that pretty much demand lawyers or doctors first. i mean i make good money too even though i'm not a doctor and i'm also a good man.

when i see profiles like that i ask myself whether or not if they want money or love. all women deserve the best, however, it doesn't mean that the best drives a Mercedes or jaguar. i could be a doctor and be a jerk. but i can be someone who makes only 80,000usd a year and treat you how you deserve to be treated.

it is my desire for everyone here to find the right person for them. if you are one of those women that want only doctors or lawyers and still haven't found the right person for you, consider giving men who don't earn as much a chance. maybe then you'll have found what you've been searching for.
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no body wants to lonly ,no body wants to is the life believe me ,with out it we may live not as humane so I'm not in love yet until I found my right one(girl) of coures
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Is my profile unrealistic, or materialistic?

And Ammirah habibty, please for the sake of Allah (swt), and for your own dignity, wipe your make up off, and put some more clothes on. A little Kohel on your eyes or something isnt bad, but come one, dont try to draw so much attention to yourself.
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u r professional and very brave man to say these words.really u face ur self and others with a very beautiful words.
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first of alll....lose ur few pounds to u later
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Great Comment Princessbelo.
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Wow Wow.. come on you guys...please don't be so judgmental. I am a doctor too.. its not about money at all for cannot generalize. People who are doctors have hearts too.. quite the contrary doctors are more humane because of their profession. Not everybody is alike..
I would prefer to marry a doctor because being in the same profession as your life partner makes life easy. But its not hard fast rule.. its all about understanding, compatibility, and most of Love!
Thanks for reading.
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u know one thing....Allah says in HOly Quran...Marrieges are decided in heaven and Celebrated on the earth ,,,after knowing all that there is nothing left to argue with luck...any way Good luck
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assalamou alikoum . u know we can say the same thing about mans cause they are not really looking for awife but for a women who is working meaning who can help him . i can tell u that its so diffecult to find a husbend who love me for my own personnalitty for who im and not for what i have or how much im beautifful; thanks and god whith u
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I fell more or less the same way you do, but I always believe that if Allah wants you to get married now,he will have you meet that speacial person now.Don't go out and search very far.You will just end up finding the wrong person...Just live ur your life as normal and you will see that person will come in due time.Have faith brother.Just remember ,you are not alone.I and I suppose plenty of other men would like the perfect muslim wife and I have faith that it will happen when the time is right