After exchanging a few emails via the site, my future husband wanted to meet in person. I said yes. The first date was was short and sweet. He did not seem like a serial killer, so I let him drive me home. I remember thinking: "this guy is so SAUDI." He was nice, but I was worried he was too conservative. Thank God my grandma taught me to just take things slow and keep an open mind, because the more I got to know him, little by little, I realized this might be the guy God wants for me. We kept things causal and simple for about nine months, seeing each other every other week for dinner and a movie. By the time he held my hand we knew each other very well. I wanted to know this man was safe to love before I loved him. But, once I did it was all over.
We were married last week. My husband is supportive, sweet, strong and open-minded, and I'm so glad I kept an open mind. Sometimes the cultural differences between us can cause confusion, but we always work through it. Right now it's hard for us because we are working through the sponsorship process, but we know it's worth it. We are truly blessed to have found each other, and have helped each other through many hardships before taking on this one. I did not grow up in a happy home, and reverted to Islam, in part, to heal that history. After working on myself and my wounds for many years God gave me a man who could handle the moments when all that work seems to melt away. I'm very grateful.
Advice to other members:
Ladies keep busy, and don't get hung up on any one guy. My grandma always told me to keep a full schedule and I'm glad she did. Mohammed hated that I was seeing other men for the first six months before we got serious, but I wasn't kissing him or them, and it helped me to pace the relationship and really think about who God might want for me. I also got to see his true colors. At the end of the day he was always my prince, but I had to really take my time to see it.